We All Need A Little Courage To Be Disliked
If you never strive to live life your own way, who's ever going to live for you?
You are not born in this world to satisfy other's expectation. Neither is anyone else born to satisfy your expectation. If you insist on the things that is right for yourself, you should not be afraid of being hated by others.
If we care to stop and imagine for a while, for most of our waking hours, we constantly toil hard to maintain good people relationships; we thread cautiously in our speech for fear of offending others; we dare not speak up the truth since we are apprehensive about being condemned by the small social circle that we depend upon. This will not only cause us to concede the very principles that truly define who we are, and we may also make others think we are just being pretentious.
If we care to stop and imagine for a while, for most of our waking hours, we constantly toil hard to maintain good people relationships; we thread cautiously in our speech for fear of offending others; we dare not speak up the truth since we are apprehensive about being condemned by the small social circle that we depend upon. This will not only cause us to concede the very principles that truly define who we are, and we may also make others think we are just being pretentious.
Too concerned about what others think to a point where you lose yourself.
Similar to what famous psychologist Alfred Adler has mentioned, in our interactions with other humans alike, we tend to seek to identify ourselves with the intentions of others rather than our own. This at times leads us to go against our own principles, or taking on responsibilities that are beyond ourselves. We may even reach a point where we need to be reliant upon other's expectations as a form of self-accomplishment.
When you care too much about what others may think of you and, at the same time afraid of jeopardizing your credentials, you have virtually suppressed everything that is You. You have effectively bound yourself in life and that should not be a form of freedom that you are entitled to.
There was once a famed saying that goes like this: "There are two types of people who can give you motivation in life. One are those that look down on you, and the other are those that look up to you. The former will give you the energy to spur you going, the latter will give you the much needed confidence you need."
Let us face the fact that no matter how formidable or good you may be, you will still get despised one way or another. Therefore, in the face of communications and human relationships, it is practically impossible not to get hurt. At the same time, it is also hard to avoid hurting some others through our actions however benign they may be. All troubles can only be evaded if you are living alone in this universe, which we know will never be the case.
Alfred Adler quoted: "No experience is ever a cause of success or failure. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences, so-called trauma - but we make out of them just what suits our purposes". As we embrace and immerse in today's connected society in everyday lives, let us strive not to magnify others' criticisms of ourselves. In contrary, we should make use of each and every unpleasant experience as an inspiration and gather momentum to make ourselves a better person after everything is said and done.
Similar to what famous psychologist Alfred Adler has mentioned, in our interactions with other humans alike, we tend to seek to identify ourselves with the intentions of others rather than our own. This at times leads us to go against our own principles, or taking on responsibilities that are beyond ourselves. We may even reach a point where we need to be reliant upon other's expectations as a form of self-accomplishment.
When you care too much about what others may think of you and, at the same time afraid of jeopardizing your credentials, you have virtually suppressed everything that is You. You have effectively bound yourself in life and that should not be a form of freedom that you are entitled to.
There was once a famed saying that goes like this: "There are two types of people who can give you motivation in life. One are those that look down on you, and the other are those that look up to you. The former will give you the energy to spur you going, the latter will give you the much needed confidence you need."
Let us face the fact that no matter how formidable or good you may be, you will still get despised one way or another. Therefore, in the face of communications and human relationships, it is practically impossible not to get hurt. At the same time, it is also hard to avoid hurting some others through our actions however benign they may be. All troubles can only be evaded if you are living alone in this universe, which we know will never be the case.
Alfred Adler quoted: "No experience is ever a cause of success or failure. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences, so-called trauma - but we make out of them just what suits our purposes". As we embrace and immerse in today's connected society in everyday lives, let us strive not to magnify others' criticisms of ourselves. In contrary, we should make use of each and every unpleasant experience as an inspiration and gather momentum to make ourselves a better person after everything is said and done.
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