Courageous People Will Make Themselves Look Normal. 5 Signs Of "Courage" Based on Alfred Adler's Psychology Theory
Those who lack courage, will resort to all means possible to look 'special'; those who possess courage, will blend themselves in as being 'normal'. Courage is the feeling in which you experience strength and you are of worth, as well as the belief that you can take on Life's problems. Life's going will never be all rosy and smooth-sailing, it may sometimes be due to work, interpersonal relationships, love relationships, or parent-child relationships; or it may also be due to a series of obstacles you faced along the way. Whenever we encounter difficulties, all of us are given two choices: one is to face it head on, and another is to run away from it. The latter of which is termed is Superiority Complex and Inferiority Complex. Let's take a look the 5 signs of "Courage" as advocated through Alfred Adler's school of thoughts.
The crux of the problem is that avoiding problems and obstacles not only does not resolve anything, it also makes you feel more inferior than ever before. Instead of doing this, why not aim to take it upon yourself to change it. How do you do it? Alfred Adler said: "Start by having courage". Adler believed that it is only when you come from a place of courage and self-worthiness, together with the "sense of belonging" through "cooperating, and experiencing, and by being useful to others." In other words, it is during situations when you have the confidence to confront Life's problems and obstacles, as well as the feeling that your contributions (Capability), and a sense of belonging (Self-worthiness). Such tendencies will bring out the "(If others can do it,) I can do it too" mentality, and provide the strength needed to face problems upfront.
Easier to achieve success
Next, Adlerian psychology also like to back the idea that courageous people have the right to success; while the opposite will only be deprived of it.
To list an example, imagine one guy who is trying hard to break into a circle of people. Everyone in this circle starts discussing about Arts, with famous figures such as Van Gogh, Renoir, Gauguin. This guy ended up being very awkward as he could not engage in their conversations.
So what would this guy plan to do following this encounter? Adler would believe that if he posseses the courage, he wil attemp to go to the library and read relevant books to make up for his lack of artistic knowledge so as to keep up with the group's experiences.
On the contrary, if he lacks the courage, he will come up with excuses for himself: "Art is a really boring topic, and I can never make a living out of it. Art is just a casual hobby for the rich at best." Behaviours such as belittling others to make himself feel good about it and not learning how to make up for the lack of knowledge.
Psychology refers this defence mechanism as Rationalization, or the tendency to avoid condemnation by self or others. So, is this guy fortunate or not? Adler feels that Success first comes from having the courage.
To be able to resolve your own issues, and feel a sense of fulfillment from helping others
Courageous people not only can attempt to solve Life's problems and obstacles, they are also able to contribute to others in a positive way. They will not rely on others, nor will they control others. On the other hand, those who lacks courage will attempt to push the problems away onto others and not looking to resolve them in any way.
Such people do not believe that they are capable and worthy, and they look to the fact that they "cannot solve the problem". In order to escape failure, they fled into the abyss of Inferiority Complex. Adler feels that courageous people are "ordinary" and "normal". "Ordinary" people are filled with strength and are fully capable of facing the difficulties of Life that come along, while those who lack courage will attempt to escape facing the music and make use of the loved ones around him to gain sympathy. Gradually, one can determine if a person has courage based on his ability to solve his or her own problems.
Up till here, I do hope it becomes clearer to you whenever you reflect back on your own journey thus far, of those moments when you possess that courage and those moments when you lack of it. A lack of courage thereof tend to make us hide under the facade of Inferiority Complex, and it is during times like these that we must remind ourselves to muster up the necessary courage in order to confront our own issues and attain the sense of self-fulfillment through the service of others.
Confront difficulties with quiet confidence
Courageous people are naturally calm and unhurried, because they trust that they can team up with the people around them to solve any kind of problems. Even if they encounter difficulties, they are able to treat them a sense of quiet confidence. Adler believes that people who are emotionally unstable and lacks courage often feel that they have enemies all around. Hence, they are always put in a state of tension and cannot seem to overcome the numerous "adversaries" around them.
We would then know that courageous people tend to be optimists with strong willpower, and they can face up to any difficulties and obstacles in front of them with a sense of calmness and righteousness. Another innate trait found in courageous people is being genuine, their expression is honest and their attitude is undeceiving and non-deliberate. To be able to enjoy Life, all of us ought to be courageous at some point in time.
Having meaningful interpersonal relationships
Courageous people tend to have meaningful relationships with others. Be it in workplace or simply hanging out with like-minded friends, they get along with others very well because they care not only for themselves, they also look out for others. You can know if a person has courage through observing his or her social circle.
On the other hand, those who lack courage always deem others as loggerheads and can be tough to interact and work with, so they are unable to maintain good relationships in various settings.
Adler believes that this has to do with a person's sensitivity towards caring for others. Those who lack courage are only concerned about how others see in himself or herself, and do not care much about others. Hence, their interpersonal relationships tend not to be all smooth-sailing. On the contrary, courageous people pay attention to the needs of others and hence, this can be a good indicator for looking out for such people.
The feeling that you are capable and worthy of achievements
The crux of the problem is that avoiding problems and obstacles not only does not resolve anything, it also makes you feel more inferior than ever before. Instead of doing this, why not aim to take it upon yourself to change it. How do you do it? Alfred Adler said: "Start by having courage". Adler believed that it is only when you come from a place of courage and self-worthiness, together with the "sense of belonging" through "cooperating, and experiencing, and by being useful to others." In other words, it is during situations when you have the confidence to confront Life's problems and obstacles, as well as the feeling that your contributions (Capability), and a sense of belonging (Self-worthiness). Such tendencies will bring out the "(If others can do it,) I can do it too" mentality, and provide the strength needed to face problems upfront.
Easier to achieve success
Next, Adlerian psychology also like to back the idea that courageous people have the right to success; while the opposite will only be deprived of it.
To list an example, imagine one guy who is trying hard to break into a circle of people. Everyone in this circle starts discussing about Arts, with famous figures such as Van Gogh, Renoir, Gauguin. This guy ended up being very awkward as he could not engage in their conversations.
So what would this guy plan to do following this encounter? Adler would believe that if he posseses the courage, he wil attemp to go to the library and read relevant books to make up for his lack of artistic knowledge so as to keep up with the group's experiences.
On the contrary, if he lacks the courage, he will come up with excuses for himself: "Art is a really boring topic, and I can never make a living out of it. Art is just a casual hobby for the rich at best." Behaviours such as belittling others to make himself feel good about it and not learning how to make up for the lack of knowledge.
Psychology refers this defence mechanism as Rationalization, or the tendency to avoid condemnation by self or others. So, is this guy fortunate or not? Adler feels that Success first comes from having the courage.
To be able to resolve your own issues, and feel a sense of fulfillment from helping others
Courageous people not only can attempt to solve Life's problems and obstacles, they are also able to contribute to others in a positive way. They will not rely on others, nor will they control others. On the other hand, those who lacks courage will attempt to push the problems away onto others and not looking to resolve them in any way.
Such people do not believe that they are capable and worthy, and they look to the fact that they "cannot solve the problem". In order to escape failure, they fled into the abyss of Inferiority Complex. Adler feels that courageous people are "ordinary" and "normal". "Ordinary" people are filled with strength and are fully capable of facing the difficulties of Life that come along, while those who lack courage will attempt to escape facing the music and make use of the loved ones around him to gain sympathy. Gradually, one can determine if a person has courage based on his ability to solve his or her own problems.
Up till here, I do hope it becomes clearer to you whenever you reflect back on your own journey thus far, of those moments when you possess that courage and those moments when you lack of it. A lack of courage thereof tend to make us hide under the facade of Inferiority Complex, and it is during times like these that we must remind ourselves to muster up the necessary courage in order to confront our own issues and attain the sense of self-fulfillment through the service of others.
Confront difficulties with quiet confidence
Courageous people are naturally calm and unhurried, because they trust that they can team up with the people around them to solve any kind of problems. Even if they encounter difficulties, they are able to treat them a sense of quiet confidence. Adler believes that people who are emotionally unstable and lacks courage often feel that they have enemies all around. Hence, they are always put in a state of tension and cannot seem to overcome the numerous "adversaries" around them.
We would then know that courageous people tend to be optimists with strong willpower, and they can face up to any difficulties and obstacles in front of them with a sense of calmness and righteousness. Another innate trait found in courageous people is being genuine, their expression is honest and their attitude is undeceiving and non-deliberate. To be able to enjoy Life, all of us ought to be courageous at some point in time.
Having meaningful interpersonal relationships
Courageous people tend to have meaningful relationships with others. Be it in workplace or simply hanging out with like-minded friends, they get along with others very well because they care not only for themselves, they also look out for others. You can know if a person has courage through observing his or her social circle.
On the other hand, those who lack courage always deem others as loggerheads and can be tough to interact and work with, so they are unable to maintain good relationships in various settings.
Adler believes that this has to do with a person's sensitivity towards caring for others. Those who lack courage are only concerned about how others see in himself or herself, and do not care much about others. Hence, their interpersonal relationships tend not to be all smooth-sailing. On the contrary, courageous people pay attention to the needs of others and hence, this can be a good indicator for looking out for such people.
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