It's Never Hard Making Decisions For Yourself

Whenever you feel stuck in a rut, you probably at some point would have asked someone else for advice on how you should proceed with your own Life from here. Oftentimes after hearing out from others, the majority of us feel we have remained stuck and would do pretty much nothing to salvage the situation. In other words, the underlying problem remains there unresolved. As time goes by, you realized you are left with little to no choice and eventually, the only option is to accept your fate and live the remaining days wondering all the what-ifs.

 Have you ever given yourself some serious thought on perhaps why the matters that cause your misery never seem to get resolved? I reckon the reason may be more simple than you thought: You do not wish to sacrifice or give up any of your curent benefits that come with your current dire situation; in addition to that, you demand and expect the situation to change in your favour just by waiting things out.

 That is where the dead knot in our Life appears. Rarely does any of us get the best of both worlds in today's context, or throughout history for that matter. There ought to be something that we have to take a step back from in order for the knot to loosen itself. Your insistence of maintaining the status quo and unwillingness to part with anything that may be serving you well (be it stable income, health benefits, etc.) despite your miserable situation will only serve to aggravate the entanglement of the knot, eventually turning into that dead knot that is impossible to untie when the end of your time comes.




Our misery in Life largely stems from the fact that we do not wish to pay a small price or sacrifice any of our low priority interests in exchange for something else that may have the potential to worth many times more in the future. When you have thoroughly weighed your options and are willing to take some form of calculated risks, in the form of sacrificing your lower priority interest in exchange for getting yourself out of the main bulk of your existing misery, you will learn that that you shall never have to ask anyone for advice in Life ever again.

For all the whys and hows that are going on in your mind that you hope someone else would be able to answer them for you, you have to be aware of the choices that are available to you. You have to always bear in mind that you ought to part with some in order to gain some and it is simply impossible to have everything that you want in Life without any compromise at all. Before you go about asking advice from someone else, there are two questions you first must have clear answers to:

1. What do I hope to achieve for myself?

2. What are some of the interests and/or benefits that I may have to part with in order to attain it?


Be clear of where you stand right now and list out all your interests, prioritizing them from the highest to the lowest and everything you have achieved to date. If you ever feel stuck and cannot seem to make clear your thoughts or certain decisions in your mind, it probably means that the matter may not be as important to you as some of your other matters or interests that are of lower priority. If that appears to be the case, then you may finally rest your case and not let it bog you down.

Just like how a child is important enough for a mother to sacrifice some of her lower priority interests for, you would definitely trade in your time and effort for a certain thing if you ever truly care enough. If you still could not let it rest after a certain period of time, return to that 2 important questions above that only you yourself can have answers to. Because when you only attempt to ask other people for advice without any clear direction for yourself, none of their advice will ever bring you closer to where you hope to be eventually. 

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